Hello! It’s me again, and it’s not over…
First of all, I would like to thank you for printing my messages which could be very helpful for a lot of people. Also, I would like to congratulate you for the progress you have made at editing The Nation. What a change to see beautiful faces such as the one on the cover of#24 of October 24th. What a change from July’s cover page of Bouchard’s face (or was it something else…) This last one should have been reserved for this last Hallowe’en issue.Well, maybe next year… (Chretien would be a good one too). About issue #24, one morething. I don’t mean to criticize but you made it so Cosmopolitan-like that people could beconfused and wonder why the magazine is free. That’s nice but don’t risk losing the cachet of The Nation’s content…
Alright, now I’d like to get straight to the point which is the one of “Communication.”Talking, opening up. A lot has been said, a lot has been brought out in the open. Too manythings are kept in the closet and by this I mean very important matters. “People (mostlyyoung ones) are afraid to talk.” This is a major problem to the personal evolution of eachand everyone. Further on I’ll explain some of the reasons why I decided to write on this particular subject but first I’d like to emphasize some facts and please follow me on thisone…
There are good and bad critics but most people will agree that the bad ones are on the tablemore often than the good ones. Why? Some will think because it’s easier to put down otherswhen you already feel low. It makes them feel higher, then better… for a while… Mostpeople are afraid of facing other people. When something goes wrong or when someone theythought to be a friend, a lover, a parent, a teacher, etc. does or says something that maydirectly or indirectly affect them, they are afraid to go straight to them and ask for anexplanation. Or sometimes they do, but with much anger, which isn’t the right way tostraighten things out. Silence within itself is a “silent killer.”
Much too often, people opt for backstabbing others, very often for no reason. Because very often, confronting others is too difficult. Who knows what will happen? Will I get hit?Will I get screamed at? Will I make myself enemies? Will I look like a fool? Will I getlaughed at? Will I be the laugh of the town? Will it make me lose my friends?
The young ones are “afraid” of just about everything and that is a fact. They are afraid,they are insecure, they lack self-confidence, they’re afraid of talking, of telling the”truth.” Most of them live in total denial, and why is this happening? Because they don’treally have someone who they can really trust or rely on. They are again afraid of betrayaland of being backstabbed. Because of a low selfesteem for themselves, some young ones willtry anything to rise up. They’ll sleep around (my friends all do it), they’ll get drunk, gethigh and try most of the things that are supposedly forbidden but still available when andany time they want it. They have never learned how to say no! And that again derives from awhole educational process. A lot of very young girls have been raped but they don’t even know that they were (yes, it’s true).
Because they did not say “no,” the bummers think that the little girls agreed. Those same little girls never said a word because, again, they’re afraid.
Again, I know of some girls who have been treated very badly by some guys. Some were battered and some are under their boyfriend’s or even girlfriend’s total control. They are stocked, jammed. There is for those victims “no way out.” Let metell you that there are plenty of depressed young people, some even more than an olderperson. It just doesn’t show because he or she looks young.
Some girls or boys think that because they go out with someone, they possess them, and nomatter how much the other person who feels possessed wants out of the relationship, the other doesn’t and won’t let go. They keep invading the life, the privacy (what’s left of it), of their supposed to be loved ones and they keep on choking and choking until the wedding day… Oh yes, a whole marital life goes on after that again. Why? Because the boy or the girl never said, “NO, I need my space, I need to breathe, I need some freedom.” Or again, and that is very politely if the person in question does not understand: Please get the hell out of my life, get yourself someone new for a while, if you can’t find one then go for a trip. Or just leave me alone for a while. I need to think, to enjoy life on my side, let me be myself…
Affirm yourselves, say what you have to say and don’t be afraid. Too many mistakes and ruined lives have been cause by keeping “silent.”
Imagine the children born from a relationship that was first of all based on control (which is a form of violence). How can they be the product of real “Love”? To all the boys and girls as well as to all the unhappy controlled couples out there: Wake up! There’s still time and “SPEAK UR” Remember, you have one life to live and it’s your own, noone else’s. If you want your children or if you expect to have some one day, make sure that you are happy first of all ’cause if they see that you are not, they won’t be either.
Also, if you have anything that prevents you from being happy (past life, whatever…), find someone you trust and get it all off your chest, clear out your mind and your acts before you make any major decisions which could jeopardize your life and your future. Remember that if you have ever been raped, molested, beaten up, abused and you still keep it a secret, say it, write it, do anything to feel better and regain your self-esteem. No one has a right on your life but the Creator and yourself. Start anew. Never be afraid of the impact or of being hated by those who’ve abused you. Think about it. Those who do or did you wrong weren’t afraid to do so. So why should you? Time to get even. Be strong, the next generations will need a lot of strength and that all begins with words… We need strong leaders such as Sitting Bulls, Pontiacs, Rolling Thunders…
If anyone wishes to reply or has no one to talk to for comfort, I can try to help.
Dr. Truth
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